““My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.”
It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”
(Hebrews 12:5–11 ESV)
The one thing I wanted to succeed at more than any other thing was to be a good father.
It was, and is, the single most important thing a man can be.
I have failed…if not completely, at least in part.
It is not for lack of trying or lack of love…if you know me you know how hard I try and how much I love that boy.
I have given him everything I possibly could…my time, my resources, my whole life is invested in him.
There has been something else though, that I have withheld from him…something that signifies love as much as anything else I could give him.
Children with Aspergers have low self images and are prone to feeling deeply alienated from others.
I tried to overcome this and in the process became overindulgent and I neglected needed discipline.
The Bible says that despite my best intentions, I didn’t treat him as a son should be treated.
I didn’t act in wisdom and now we are reaping the whirlwind.
Now, the Lord is disciplining me as I am learning to discipline my son.
It hurts really bad.
My failures have hurt not only myself, but the one I wanted to keep from hurt the most…and the rest of the family as well.
Some of you, like me, have made some really bad decisions and you’re being disciplined for them.
You’re hurting too.
Our Fathers discipline isn’t punitive, it’s rehabilitative.
We’re not being punished, we’re being changed.
You’re still breathing, thus there is hope.
Our Father is wise…and through this discipline He is showing us that we belong to Him and that we mean enough to Him to correct us.
His love will never leave us, but this time of discipline will pass and leave us in peace and more ready for home.
We will always be the beloved children of the Father…this season of pain is proof of His love.
As always…make your own application.